waiting said, "But there is a group of persons who just "fall into it" by circumstances.
Such as wife working late for an extended time period. Father or step father alone with teenager.....etc. etc. It may be a like a strange - and wrong - affair, doomed to hurtful failure. But it doesn't mean that same man will be on the hunt for every child in his home and neighborhood for the rest of his life."
I used to believe this. I believed my father was one of these. Then after I came out of secrecy and told my sibs about Dad, the truth came out: I was not his first victim. The extenuating 'circumstances' that I had used to excuse/forgive his behavior were proved entirely SPECIOUS. I was not his first victim. My oldest sister had been his victim right up until he transferred his attentions to me, which happened on the eve of her wedding. (He followed his pattern and quit trying to get at me when I became engaged. Apparently he only wanted untouched girlflesh...)The climate of silence and the blame-the-victim mentality kept her from telling and kept all those who knew or suspected from doing anything when they knew he was at it again with me. Besides, Daddy was such a NICE man, a GOOD man, who would ever believe HE would do anything so dirty and furtive?
Nearly twenty years later, he started in on his granddaughters. He volunteered to babysit while the parents were out of town getting cancer therapy for the mother, and used the time to play his nasty little hand games.
Pedophiles are like cannibals. Get a taste of kid flesh, and no other meat is ever sweet enough. I no longer believe any one of them ever just 'falls into it.' It's a conscious choice. My dad used to tell me I looked just like my dead mother, as if that made him unable to control his actions. All the time he was acting out a pattern of behavior that was familiar and obviously thrilling for him; the blissful leer on his face is etched in my mind forever. I won't believe he 'fell into' that out of anything but free choice. That 'helpless victim of circumstance' bullshit is IMO another weaselly out these pervs use to excuse their nastiness when they get caught. In my case I got blamed for attracting his attention just by looking like Mom!
MY father is paralyzed and tube fed in a nursing home a thousand miles away from me. I was horrified when a psychiatrist said to me, 'GOOD!' when she heard this. Lately that horror has turned to satisfaction. There may not really be a god, but sometimes justice does out. I will not forgive that rat bastard for stealing my innocence. I'm satisfied that he has suffered and still suffers every day. Our balance sheet is now even. His cosmic debt is still way huge though, considering that there are at least three other victims of this perv walking around blaming themselves for 'attracting' his attentions.